You’ve got a lot going on for you – a good career, a stable life, making good money… But it still doesn’t feel like your life is working for you.
If you’re honest, it feels like no one has your back. Like no one is in your corner, cheering you on in all of your challenges; at least not in the way that you need.
It feels like more and more just keeps piling up on you, and you have no idea how you’re supposed to deal with it. You’re starting to doubt your ability to manage the craziness of life, the heaviness of it, the complications of family that you love, but who don’t always treat you with love and care. You also know that, despite your success, you’re holding yourself back. The baggage you carry is stopping you from fully embracing relationships or from having the confidence to take the next steps professionally.
You feel weighed down by “failures” and unable to see your strength and successes despite surviving one hard thing after another, often with limited or poor support. You may also feel as though you’re carrying a ton of bullshit from previous traumas you endured. Or maybe you just feel broken and that no one else cares.
The truth is you aren’t broken. You may have a heart or mind that has been sprained, but with the right treatment, you can heal.
When people who feel that “no one cares about them” come to see me, I’m always reminded of how important it is that AT LEAST ONE PERSON cares…and the fact that they sought my help tells me that the MOST important person they can have rooting for them in their life CARES – THEY CARE.
They care about themselves. They care enough to say, “enough of this shit!” and get the support they need. And that’s the first step to widening that circle of support to create healthy connections so that they don’t have to carry that care alone.
They care enough to find a therapist they can feel good about working with. I am not a stuffy professor that will drone on about theory. To hell with that! I’ve been doing this for a long time and have helped hundreds of clients, and it’s important to me to be real. It’s my job to help you gain some clarity on issues you are dealing with, to challenge and encourage you to be willing to be uncomfortable for just a bit so you can find your happiness in life. Which means I will sometimes call you on your bullshit.
But that doesn’t mean we can’t have some fun. When I’m working with a client, I like to use humor – to share helpful anecdotes and to remind you that you are not alone and not quite as uniquely damaged as you might think. I will tell you like it is from a therapeutic and compassionate but real and goal reaching kind of place. And I will do it all with my shoes off, adding jokes, making sure we are both as comfortable as possible.
I promise to not gloss things over or tell you what I think you want to hear. Instead, I will help you gain some clarity on the issues you are dealing with in your life. I will challenge you and encourage you to be willing to be uncomfortable for just a bit, so that you can find your happiness in life.
As your therapist, I will stand with you in the mess, and together we will work on putting some order into whatever that chaos is in your life that is making you feel depressed, anxious, stressed, or just plain out of control.
I will have your back. I will be in your corner, encouraging you to find your voice, stand up for yourself against others (even your family), and fight for your happiness.
Most importantly, to stop just striving to be a survivor. Instead to fight harder, not just to survive but to thrive!